Today is my three year anniversary of regaining my sanity. Three years ago I made a choice to no longer try to change my abusive wife. My decision was based on the fact that no amount of loving her, giving her the things she wanted, or praying for her to change made any difference, and so I decided she would stop abusing me that day, one way or another. I'd see to that. One choice would lead me to prison, the other to freedom. So I walked away. Within a couple days I had contacted a lawyer and a therapist. I had work to do. Three years ago was another lifetime.